Nerd Family. Pro-Nerd. Pro-Family.

Google
 
Web blog.nerdfamily.com

Monday, February 26, 2007

Exposure to Bullies, Good or Bad?

When it comes to the non-homeschooling world's view of homeschooling I am greatly frustrated. It seems that many people are frustrated with our public schools and admit that homeschoolers have a better grasp on academics. But they don't like a)you are mostly around people who share your views and even more so b)that you are not being exposed to jerks. I was over commenting on an article on Two Babes and a Brain (read that comments too) about a district that is throwing out standards (you know, grades and grading). My natural response was that homeschooling was the perfect option. I was told by someone I respect that she didn't believe in homeschooling for the 2 aforementioned reasons, especially since we as parents aren't going to be around forever to protect our kids. (Don't flame her, I am just using her comments as an example of an argument I hear all the time)

Then I was reading an article on a child that committed suicide over at Why Homeschool as a result of bullying. Henry points out that the public school doesn't effectively deal with a bully nor the issue.

Then I was reading a final article over at Dr. Helen about the workplace being an extension of the school yard and workplace bullies. She began asking why these type of people are allowed to walk all over the rest of us.
People need to learn to control their emotions at work, but those who feel entitled, will continue to hurl abuse at co-workers if they think they can get away with it without any repercussions such as the embarrassment of being called out on the carpet for their tacky and unprofessional conduct.


That is when it all fell into place. As homeschoolers, I hope we are all teaching our kids to a)not be bullies and b)not tolerate be bullied. Imagine how all the world would change with that attitude. Part of the attitude I hear is that we all lived through it but is that a reason to do anything? I personally want better for my kids both how they are treated and how they behave. So I am going to hold onto the fact that we are revolutionizing the world! If the rest of the world is jealous that we are willing to do what can to protect our kids, I am sorry but you can't bully me;).

Labels: , , ,

3 Comments:

  • I grew up with several home schooled friends and a common experience I had was being treated badly by them. It felt like the world revolved around them in every situation. As if they were never taught to function in a social setting.

    Just a thought.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5:48 AM  

  • Brody, I'm sorry you had that experience. Many have the same experience with public schooled kids. In fact, there was a recent article that has been circulating about how narcissistic our youth have become and it has nothing to do with homeschooling.

    There are bad parents who indulge their children in everything and make them the center of the universe, no matter where they send them to school. There are parents who do not do that, but struggle with the attitude in their children.

    Thanks for the thoughts, Nerdmom. I agree...I want my children to learn not to engage in or accept such behavior.

    By Blogger Hanley Family, at 4:05 AM  

  • Whether homeschooled or publicly schooled, we can all recall being treated badly by some child. Was it the result of their school environment? Not necessarily.

    However, as Dana pointed out, bullies are definitely the product of the environment -- and standards -- their parents create.

    With homeschooled kids who become bullies, it's not the educational process that's to blame: it's the lack of effective parental discipline.

    Chances are, those kids would have been bullies in any environment.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 12:43 PM  

Post a Comment

<< Home


 
/body>